We're all guilty of this at one point or another.
The game of comparison and getting caught up.
I honestly try as hard as possible not to be a jealous person, I truly believe we've all been given something that nobody else has. We're all blessed in our own ways. But sometimes. Sometimes it's really hard. Especially in a world where social media is king and most of us choose to only show the good days on social media. While I'm not against doing that, I mean.. hello! I do it all the time, because nobody wants to hear about bad things all the time!,Sometimes it gives others the false perception that people have perfect lives, perfect homes, perfect children, perfect everything.
Even when they don't.
And that can leave us feeling defeated and like what we have or what we're doing isn't good enough. Even when that's not the case.
You see the truth is, ALL of us want something someone else has at one point or another. It's human nature to be curious and yes, even a little jealous sometimes.
So how do you avoid getting caught up in the game of comparison?
It's actually pretty easy and something I've discovered as I've aged.
The NUMBER ONE thing to do to avoid getting caught up is to BE HAPPY FOR OTHER PEOPLE and give compliments! This sounds sort of contradicting, but in truth, I believe we find happiness in ourselves when we focus on what's good in others. I've become a much better person when instead of thinking to myself, "Ugh, I love her dress, she's so pretty, I'll never look like her." and instead TELLING people when I like something they're wearing, or something they've done. Giving compliments is so exhilarating. No, it really is. It's like in a way, we're telling ourselves that just because someone else is pretty, doesn't mean we aren't.
I honestly want people to do good, I want people around me to be happy. Because when I'm surrounded with Happy, Uplifting and Motivating people, guess what? It makes me happy as well. It's okay if someone has a bigger house or a nicer car, that doesn't make what we have any less nice or meaningful to us.
Number Two: DO WHAT YOU LOVE AND LOVE WHAT YOU DO.
Find a hobby, something you love to do, and put your whole heart into it. For me, it's decorating and interior design. I love painting and creating and whenever I'm having a hard day just creating something makes me happy. Finding something you love to do allows us to put focus on something other then other people. It requires we look inside of ourselves and discover the spark that we sometimes keep hidden inside. Other people don't have to love it, as long as you do, that's what matters!
Number Three: TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
Work out- Do some squats, go for a run, listen to music. Eat good food. Be good to your body. It's so important to take care of and learn to love yourself. When I was younger I used to be so hard on myself. I wasn't skinny enough, I wasn't pretty enough. The negative thoughts I allowed to flow through my brain on a regular basis are really horrendous. These days, when I have a bad thought, I instantly try to stop it dead in its tracks. Instead of saying, "My House will never be as big as hers." I think to myself about all the hard work and love we poured into our house and realize that I wouldn't have it any other way. Not pretty enough? While, I may not be the prettiest girl in the world, I'm thankful for beautiful heart which is full of love. It's good we all don't look alike! Imagine how boring the world would be!
While it's easy these days to get caught up in the game of comparison, I ask you to take a step back and remember that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. People only share the good things most of the time, and while that's okay, it gives us a false perception of reality. Once we learn to truly love ourselves, and I mean TRULY, we realize that life is so much bigger then worrying about what this person has or what this person doesn't have. We should all just be thankful for the things we've been blessed with because they could all be gone tomorrow.
The next time you find yourself getting caught up, stop. Think. Remember that there are people out there praying for the things you have now. Go create something, Grab a paintbrush, go for a run, listen to music. Be kind to yourself. Don't allow negative thoughts in your head. If you wouldn't say it to someone you love, then don't say it to yourself.
While a lot of these things are easier said then done, I promise you, once you force yourself to BE HAPPY, you're going to FEEL happy, or at least happier. And in the end, that's all we all want really. To be happy:)