If you would have told me 10 years ago, we would own our own home, have a successful business and be flipping houses for a living, I probably would have laughed in your face.
Not meaning to be rude of course, but simply because as a teen parent there were several things that seemed out of reach for us.
If you've been following along for a good while then you're probably already aware that I was a Teen Mom, and nope. I'm not talking 18-19 years old (even that is too young..) nope, I became a Mom for the first time when I was just 15 years old. Goodness it gives me chills just typing that now.
I've come along way from that lost and confused 15 year old girl I was.
Of course you're wondering how this happened at such a young age for me, for us. It's a classic girl meets boy story. Nick had moved up from the city to our little small country town. It wasn't love at first sight, not for either of us. Honestly, at 14 years old I was still very uninterested in boys. I was focused on school and other things I had going on in my life. Somewhere along the line, Nick as I become friends, and from there you can pretty much figure out what happened.
We started dating and then.. our son happened.
It was the hardest thing we would probably endure in life- sticking together even when there were so many times we didn't know who we were ourselves, how could we continue to be in a successful relationship when we were growing as people? But we made it through, all the struggles, the hardships, the diapers, the long working hours- literally, hours. And we made it. We made it here.
And there isn't a single day that goes by that I don't think about those years of my young life, and all that they taught me. You see, Nick and I were determined. We were determined not to be a statistic. We weren't going to sit around and feel sorry for ourselves because we hit a bump in the road. We were going to be good parents and give our son something to look up too.
We both went on to finish school and quickly after that Nick started working with a family friend and I was taking community college classes and working double shifts as a cocktail waitress. We were getting along fine. But we still knew we both wanted more.
So when Nick was 20? Maybe 20, maybe younger.. either way, he came to me and said he would own a house in cash by the time he was 25. I laughed at the idea. We were kids living with my Mom with a kid of our own. This "goal" seemed impossible and out of reach.
Which is probably why I cried the day it came true.
The year Nick turned 25 we were able to buy our first home, in cash! Thanks to our business flipping houses, many many mant late late nights and yes, lots of arguments and struggles(I'll share that whole process in another post.) And I was so thankful, I cried. and Cried and Cried. Okay, maybe I was secretly crying because I didn't know how we would ever be able to make this house our forever home, but again, that post is for another day, lol.. It was gods way of saying,
"You've made it..despite all the hardships, you've made it."
And here we are, a full almost 10 years later and I'm still amazed at all my blessings. Still amazed with the "nest" we've created.
The whole reason I'm writing this post today is because I want someone to read this and know, that no matter how hard the struggle is right now, no matter how badly you want to give up. DON'T. Keep working hard, keep fighting. Keep dreaming and keep chasing those goals!! NOTHING is going to fall in your lap. While I'm sure in your head there are a million reasons why you can't do something, I'm giving you 10,000 reasons why you can. It's all in your head, your mindset.
While I sure wish I could have done things a lot differently, looking back I realize that God had a plan for me, for us, all along. I don't regret being a Teen Parent and I don't regret our son. He has been my greatest blessing and the best gift. I do regret not making better decisions and choices. There were many things I missed out on as a Teen Parent. But I don't regret my journey and what I've learned along the way. Nick and I overcame a lot of struggles and obstacles, but we're here, and we're blessed.
Don't give up, don't let someone else write your story for you, write your own story and create your own path.
Thanks for stopping over to listen to be ramble today, it truly means so much!!!