A Glass Of Wine

November is the month that we remind ourselves to be thankful, and while we shouldn't need the reminder, sometimes, we just do. 

I'm currently sitting here at my dining room table with my glass of wine just thinking, and for a split second, I was feeling sorry for myself. Scrolling through some blogs, Pinterest and Instagram today, I kept seeing all of these insanely gorgeous homes. I call them, Mc-Mansions, and I was just like- "OMG. WHY would anyone want to read my blog, or follow me on social media." I was almost embarrassed. 
My house isn't huge, or actually, even finished. We have plywood flooring in our "master bedroom"- Un-stained wood in our upstairs hallway, a half painted laundry room, a crack in the ceiling from where our washer leaked, I mean really. ENDLESS AMOUNTS of projects and things that need to be fixed. I feel so overwhelmed sometimes and find myself wishing for things I don't have.



 Even though I know that's so wrong.

Our home, though not huge or fancy- is ours. And we worked so hard for it. We worked so many long hours trying to make this a home. A place we could raise our babies in. 

There is truly such beauty in being content. 
Although sometimes it's sure hard to feel that way.

So when I'm feeling down because I don't have a huge, beautiful home, covered in ship lap walls and beautiful crown molding, I try to remind myself that I am enough. I have enough, and I do enough. 

As I'm sitting here- looking around, I'm feeling extremely grateful. 

Like, who's life am I living right now? 

When I was 18 years old, and struggling as a teen mom, I would never in a thousand years have thought we would be where we are today. Waking up in a home filled with so much love and so many memories. While we aren't rich in any sense of the word, we're able to make a living doing something we love- flipping houses. I get to decorate my home, paint things and share DIY projects on a blog full of readers who are always so encouraging and inspiring. I get to connect with thousands of people on a daily basis and have built so many friendships that I'm incredibly grateful for. 

I think sometimes we get so caught up in what we don't have that we forget to sit back and be thankful for what we do. It's funny how something as simple as a glass of wine can make me come to such a realization. 

I'm learning that it really is all about how you see things. You can look at the glass as half empty or half full. Don't get caught up in someone else ending when you're still in your beginning or middle. Life is not a race, or a competition.

Most of us look at something someone else has and wonder why we don't have the same, God has a plan for everyone and everything. Once I learned to trust in him and the path he had laid out for me, so many beautiful opportunities came my way. I'm so thankful for all of them, and for all of you. 

My journey has been a bumpy one, but a blessing none the less. For each and every bump lead me to where I am today. 

I read a comment the other day from another Instagrammer (I really wish I could remember the account! But it was weeks ago..) and it just hit me so hard. Over the following weeks, as my following grows on Instagram, I have started to receive a handful of negative or just flat out mean comments, Regarding my style and our home. While it certainly felt like a personal attack, I remembered that this person doesn't know me, or my struggles. They don't know the journey I took to get here. I wanted to quickly respond back something that would hurt them as much as they had hurt me but then I reminded myself I'm better then that.I have even been attacked or made fun of by so called friends and family. It has hurt me tremendously. But I keep sharing. I do know that there are people out there with bigger homes and fancier kitchens then me. Of course I know this. But if I sat alone in those thoughts, all the time, It would eat me alive and discourage me from sharing in the future.

So instead, I keep making the best of what we have, hoping to encourage and inspire others who feel like they're in similar situations. I don't decorate my home for anyone else but the people who live in it. I don''t care to show off anything I have. That is NOT why I blog or share my home and life with you on social media. I do it because of the handful of comments and E-mails I get from people, just like me or similar, thanking me for encouraging or inspiring them. THAT is why I blog. THAT is why I share so much of my life with people I don't know. Not to impress, but to hopefully inspire, encourage and uplift. 

I've never wanted to be in competition with anyone. I have enough on my plate struggling with feeling like I'm in competition with myself some days.

I'm asking you all, before you leave my blog today, to make sure to take a moment to remember to remind someone that they're doing great, and remind yourself that too. Also remember that although someone's life may seem perfect on social media, there are so many things you don't see because we choose not to highlight them. 

YOU HAVE ENOUGH, YOU DO ENOUGH, YOU ARE ENOUGH. 
Just a little food for thought on this Thursday afternoon. 
Thank you so much for allowing my blog to be a safe place, I know I can come here, and share my feelings with you. You honestly do not know how much that means to me. 
Thank you!

Have any of you felt similar? Feel free to chat with me, especially if you're needing some encouragement or feeling down on yourself for whatever reason. You can leave a comment below, or send me a message on Instagram
XOXO

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21 comments

  1. I loved this post, Laurie! Your heart posts are some of my favorites! And girl, your new look on your blog is GORGEOUS! It's perfect for your brand!

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  2. Gratitude changes EVERYTHING! ❤️

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  3. I am not one to comment but I just want to say that I loved your post. Gratitude is something that I am working on- being grateful for what I have even though you see so many others appearing on social media to have more or have a better life - so this hits home. You are doing a wonderful job lady!

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  4. Love your transparency in this post! Like you said, we often put on a 'social media' face, and it's not helpful to others. :-) Your being vulnerable is great! And, I love your style and the things you are doing with your home! Quite inspiring!

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  5. You go girl! You rock and are amazing and don't let those negative comments get you down. Rude people. It's never about you personally anyways. That's my opinion. It's their own stuff projecting. I love what you've got going on!

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  6. You ARE enough beautiful! You and your home and your family make the world a better place. You don't need to feel validated by ANYONE because as I say, I'm not going home to anyone but my hubby and kids! Life ... It's a journey and aren't we just grateful to be on one that we actually enjoy. Girl when negatively happens just put your hand up and say "bye Felicia" love you

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  7. I truly love the authenticity in this post. Perspective is so crucial. I love your home and the way you make it a space that is warm and inviting. I'm a new blogger and Pastor in Orlando. Take it from me...you are inspiring many!!

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  9. I love your message. I too agree that we get so caught up in comparing ourselves to others. We forget to take a step back and be grateful for what we have worked for and what we have been given. I started following your Instagram a few months ago and have to say that you have become such an inspiration! Love your insta and your blog!

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  10. I don't always check out your blog but I always love ALL of your IG posts. The wine comment intrigued me so i had to check it out. Your words are beautiful and humble and inspiring. Keep on doing what you do! You are respected, admired and adored!!! Thank you for your honesty. This hit home for me. God bless.

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  11. Laurie...you're my fav. I have so many of the same struggles. I read all your blogs. I'm old enough to be your mom and would tell you the same I would tell my own ...be yourself..love yourself. Praise God for everything you have!!! You have a beautiful family and home!!

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  12. Laurie,

    Thank you. Thank you for your honesty and your words of encouragement. I recently started a blog. It was a difficult decision for me. No one likes to feel judged or criticized and I wasn't sure I was ready to face that possibility. After months of staring at drafts, thinking maybe this is not the right place for me, I finally took a leap of faith and launched my blog. Lately I've been questioning my decision. Often I feel like what I have to share is not something anyone else would be interested in because there are so many amazing lifestyle sites out there better than mine. No matter what comes of my new journey, I will forever be thankful that I took a chance and pursued my dream. I am strengthened by your honesty, your determination, and your inspiration. Your home and your style is beautiful, never doubt that. Best wishes. P.S. You site is great!

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  13. Loved your transparency in this post. I find it so easy in the home decor niche to get caught up in what others have and I don't. I often have to step back and realize that there's so much more that we don't see in the beautiful pictures. The other day I took a picture and had to laugh because what wasn't "in the frame" was a total disaster. LOL We totally need a hashtag for that!

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  14. Oh, and I LOOOOVE your new layout/look!

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  15. This really hit home today!! No one knows what you're going through and people are so quick to judge others. But thank you for doing what you do and letting us see your beautiful home...I enjoy it!

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  16. Laurie... God is so awesome! I met a friend today for coffee and I was saying almost word for word to her all the things you just shared about yourself. It's uncanny, really! How wonderful is it that He lead me to your page at just the right time. �� Your words were a blessing to me... God is using you and your gifts to inspire and encourage! Being transparent is hard and humbling, which shows your loving character. ❤️ God will bless you for it as you have blessed me and I'm sure a lot of others. Your blog, Instagram page and your home are so beautiful! In fact, I have you set on my notifications so I can see when you post! �� Have a great evening, and thank you for listening to that gentle voice. �� ❤️

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    1. I don't know why all those question marks are in my comment! I didn't put them there... 😉

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  17. I love you Laurie and have for years. I can totally relate to many of these things. If you ever need to talk, l am here.

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  18. Thank you for this honest, heartfelt post. In the past I have had to stay off of insta for a while because I was beginning to wonder why I could just never attain the "perfect" that is shown in many posts. With time and introspection I have learned that it's far more important to appreciate the not so "perfect" and be greatful at some point everyday.

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  19. Your heart is everything! I love following you and your blog because YOU are so real and relatable! And ofcourse i swoon over your style and inspiring ways! You inspire me, my home, and my day to day!

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  20. I try to remind myself that I am enough. I have enough, and I do enough. <<< thank you for this! I am going to write this down somewhere so that I can always see and remember this! And I truly pray that you feel and believe that as well. Your home is beautiful, but Laurie your heart is too. And that is what matters most.

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